The Framework for Processing Life Changes

How many times have you heard someone say they wish they had a manual for life? While we still must learn to trust and exercise our intuition, there actually is a framework to follow for anything becoming whole. This framework can be applied to anything with humans in it from growing up, to becoming a family, a nonsmoker, an athlete, adopting a new role on the job, creating a business, becoming whole through trauma, gelling as a team, and the list goes on.

Here are the stages:

1) Develop an identity, foundation, routine, and sense of belonging.

2) Find your ‘go-to’ people and establish the boundaries of your relationship with them. Develop a creative aspect to your identity.

3) Gain competence in your ability to maintain the previous elements.

4) Understand that others are experiencing, are attempting to, or have experienced the same process. Develop compassion for others and add this compassion into your partnerships. Help or assist others. Heal from your mishaps.

5) Learn to communicate, to be heard, and to share your thoughts and ideas.

6) Begin to see the complexity of the many moving parts and how they all flow together. Everything has a purpose and position.

7) Understand your place in the larger whole. For example, if your part were the lungs, you recognize you are an essential part of a body, which is the larger whole.

Applying this framework to every change, every situation, after every life-changing event, will give you direction and can serve as your guide so you know where you are going as you progress through these stages of development.

You are not simply dealing with the things that land in your lap–or that you brought upon yourself. You are becoming a new person, an expanded version of yourself with new knowledge.

Change can be very difficult. If you have steps to take, a procedure to follow, at least the process seems less daunting and you will likely shorten the time it takes to recover and become the new you.

Much love,